Dear stranger,
I could feel you going from your hard time. It's ok you are strong buddy. Your emotion is powerful but your efforts have more enormous energy.
I would like to change your questions bit how do I get rid of negative thoughts. How can I cope with negative thoughts?. Our brain is the evolution of millions of year results. You can't force to stop function it. Its function is only to thinks and signal about what you are going through. Have you ever ask how to rid of joy emotion? It's ok. We are human.
Do you know how many thoughts does a human has on a day? 50,000 to 80,000. And the max of them is always negative. Even in days when we are joyous but we don't focus them and let it go. So I feel you do it. We don't need to run against our emotions they will be there. We just need to cope with them and understand them. We need to heal our own selves.
Let's have practical and pragmatic solutions. Method how to cope with negative emotions?
Firstly, forgive people and yourself. Yes, dear, you need to forgive yourself and people too. How much they have hated you. The day you really forgive them. The bond of resentment, guilt, negativity, broken heart is disconnected and you can feel light on that day. Forgiveness has enormous energy in it. Forgiveness destroys the seed of revenge, hate, hurtful mindset. The day you forgive yourself you are out of the victim mindset. We get hurt start having a victim mindset. Nothing good happens to me all sadness belongs to me. This world is Hell. Forgive yourself first and let me free from all negative grudges. You can read the power of forgiveness in the book, you can heal yourself.
Secondly, let it go. You must have gone this suggestion a lot let it go buddy, be mindful, live in present, detach yourself from the past. Let share one story to known the power to let it go.
One of Buddhist mock was on journey with one of his disciples. In the path they have to cross the river to reach their destination. They show a women was unable to cross the river. Disciples show and ignore it. But mock took the women over shoulder carry her to cross the river. They move further, the disciples was angry and upset with mock. But didn't said and moving. Know some unusual mock asked him what happened dear. In angry state he argues why you carry her to cross the river you know we don't even touch womens. Mock peaceful say. Why are you carrying her till now.. Way back I have left her. Moral we carry alot of things and feed our negative thoughts which we can let go.
Let me help you know how to be mindful and let it go. Ask yourself questions. Few helpful question
- Will it help me in any positive matter?
- What I will gain from it?
- Will this give me true happiness? Will, it will matter after 5yr or 5 months or 5weeks or even 5 days?
Thirdly, accept yourself, we don't accept our mistakes. Accept yourself as you are don't run for perfectionism because superlative doesn't exist in the real world. Crave to be better but don't be too harsh on yourself. Love yourself. Treat yourself as you treat your loved ones. Crave for love and feed yourself, love.
Fourthly, set your boundaries, yes it's important to be private. There is a difference between setting boundaries and not letting anyone come close to yourself. You should know what you want to share and whatnot. Learn it time will teach you, buddy. Better you learn before life teaches you a lesson. Life is a harsh teacher.
Fifth, invest your time rather then Overthinking. Overthinking destroys your vibes. It creates a loop of negative emotions. Read blogs in self-healing, read self-healing books like, you can heal yourself, dear stranger, write daily emotions journals. It will help you a lot really. Whenever you feel low or negative write all your emotions on paper and throw it. Research as it helps in coping clinically proved. Mediation, have daily positive affirmation. Read the power of subconsciousness to know the power of affirmation.
Sixth, break the pattern of thought, learn when you going in a loop of negative thoughts, it's like a rigid trap make you try to escape deeper you move. You can break it by 5 minutes rule
- Identify the thought, which is doing harm to your conceive.
- Know the cause of thought
- Take a 5-minute break and ask the self-question. M I overthinking it? Know I know I m overthinking it? Will it gain me anything? Be honest with yourself? Say I know myself.
- Get it you are overthinking, we servers from anxiety many. Clutches in the chest. Our body realizes adrenaline with pump oxygen to her muscles which sometimes leads to hard shaking and more. The moment you feel like this or have overthinking start dancing, jumping lets your body use that oxygen.
I know it will be not easy for I know you can because you won't heal yourself.. You are not alone buddy. We are with you. Love yourself don't let yourself lose... You are so heroic I have seen your efforts... A lot of love from my side. ❤❤❤
Love.
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