I know how it feels to be betrayed in love. How you have survived those dark nights. Your holding back of emotions is not going to heal. You are just clinched to your past. It's never easy to say no to your emotions.
How can it be easy to say to someone, I don't love whom you have once loved ferociously?
I know stranger how much you have suffered in the way to heal yourself. It is because you still that love?
or,
It's because you wish to be with that person.
Here, We are going to see 6 different ways. How to get over on ex you still love?
1. Love them But Let them go.
You can love someone and still let them go. Discernment is the most important skill that has to develop during the dating process. You loving someone has nothing to with them meeting the standards of the relationship that you want for yourself. If they are not doing the bare minimum, it is okay to love than and release them from your life. Get rid of this idea that just because we love someone, it means we must end up together.
Your attraction buds are not necessarily healthy. Your chemistry might be toxic itself. And hence, You cannot allow your feelings to be the driver's seat of your life and you definitely cannot base your decision on your feelings. Emotions are meant to be felt, They are not meant to make your decisions for you. When we have attachment wounds ,we will get attracted to people who are not necessarily good for us. we will get drawn to people who can re-wound us in similar ways.But in the pattern of re-wounding,we have massive opportunity of healing. And we heal By going afaint our dysfunctional pull. We heal by not pursuing unsafe connectors.We heal those woundsby claiming ourselves and choosing ourselves.
2. Contact Rule.
After the breakup happens we trend to try regain connection with ex. we try to seek to develop friendship. The friendship,which just be like bait to regain the person back in life. we try to rationalize our love by holding the relationship name as friendship. We pretend to be like if we cant be partners lets have healthy friendship which never be healthy.
When you are romantically in love with someone then, your friendship is fraud.
The moment to heal yourself. You should follow no contact rule. Yes, its hard but its the best ways to give yourself time and rationalize what emotions you are really going? What are wounds you need to healing?
In way to heal yourself need to value yourself and give yourself time. No contact rule will help removing cloud in way to take decisions
3. The Last Hope.
Even after the person has walked out of the relationship we still trend to be in one-side relation. We think we still have hope that we person will return with love.We can't accept that the person have left the relationship. We always want the person back and love us back. We fasinate about the person as if is tempuary break and reunion is future.
The hope that the person will back trend to make us fall in loop of consecutive overthinking. Even after the years of breakup we can't heal ourself.
4. Acceptance
Most crucial step in way to heal yourself is acceptance. Acceptace that yess... the person whom I love most has left me. I bear to love them still but there emotion should no bother me any me. Loving someone unconductionly is not as sin. Love happens like anything. But hurting yourself and living in fancy world is solution of any problem. You can still love the person from distance. You can always pray for them. Love never say that in order to love other person you have to hurt yourself. Sacrifices in one side toxic relationship is not worth.
5. Self Love
Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are, while knowing you deserve better, that working towards it. It's important to recognize that it's not unjust to let go of those who show no concern for you. Self Love will help you value yourself. In the dysfunction dating pattern we often forget to love ourself. We trend to find love in outside world while the love me inside us. We just need to love ourself bit more.
6. Action
Having action toward yourself. Action means prioritizing your works, goals, life event. Action on way to develop your. It's rightly said that love has enormous power within it self. Love can bring the change. Develop healthy habits. Have self development works and course. Do things which you were passionate about. Get out of your comfort zone.
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